Esraa Dawood, Middle East

It seems to me that American families are not strong families. In my culture, we understand the exact meaning of family and home, and we know how to respect our parents, relatives and our friends. You can't always see clearly what the relationship is between parents and their children. In American families, children leave their families when they become 18 years old and it seems that some of them don't even try to see their families again and usually say this is the meaning of freedom. Having freedom in my society means respecting yourself and others. Our parents need us to be around them, not go too far away from them.

Nur Faizah, Malaysia

Almost everyday at my office, I would go to the websites on parenting/family. I just want to be a good mother which I think I haven't been able to achieve yet.

I am a mother of two daughters, have a husband and am staying with my parents-in-law (my parents have passed away). So, that is the type of family which I am living in right now. To me, when talking about family and solutions to family problems, there is no specific answer and specific tips which are going to suit every family. As mentioned earlier, I have tried all sorts of parenting techniques but none of them could produce good results.

You see, it takes all the members in the family's cooperation in order to build a happy family. When everyone put their effort to make it happen, all the tips and techniques will come naturally. To me, as I have seen it, it works that way. There is no point doing it on your own. You will end up in frustration and your frustration will lead to anger and it will just ruin everything.

So now, the big Question of how to everybody's cooperation. This is very tough. For example, if you look at my family, which has other extra people in it –parents-in-law. You must think that the best solution is to find another place where only my husband and children are there without other intervention. Well, that is not the answer because there are a lot of family matters to be considered. As mentioned earlier, the solution is not the same for everyone. What I have done is to give and take with (more of giving it seems) everyone so that when I suggested something (on the tips), the suggestion can be accepted easily. Another thing that I have done is to believe in my instinct and be honest to myself that the thing is good for everyone.

Lulu, China

If you have a family and have kids, you should keep the commitment for it. Maybe you will become bored when you feel every day life is prosaic, but no pay no gain. If you have the sense of responsibility for the family, someday, when your family is much better because of your hard work compared with that family without care, then your life is regretless. Or if you feel you really don't have the responsibility for this, then don't give the birth to baby.

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