| Are they romantic?
A professor at a Californian college and his colleagues began studying 200 college-age couples who were dating each other exclusively. Fifteen years later he determined that half had broken up within two years of the initial study – most often because the woman ended the romance. The professor concluded, "When it comes to romantic beliefs, men are more likely to believe that true love lasts forever and overcomes all obstacles."
If either gender can be labeled romance junkie, it's men. They often fall in love more easily and more quickly then women, who are aptto consider practical issues in choosing a mate.
Many women complain that their mates are romantic washoutsbecause they expect men to fulfil the female definition of romance, which has a lot to do with the verbal expression of feelings. But men tend to clam upafter the first heartfelt "I love you". They don't have to reinforce the intimacy with talk because they feel connected to theirpartner merely by being in her presence.
Do they want to avoid marriage?
For many single women, the typical bachelor is a Houdini, a practiced escape artist who will vanish into thin air at the slightest suggestion that a relationship become long term.
According to experts, however, these types are atypical. Men, in fact, seek marriage in greater numbers than women do, and very few remain lifelong bachelors: over 90 percent of American males wed in some point at their lives. Even after marriage, men are pleased with their decision. In one poll, 80 percent of married men said they would marry their wives over again, while only 60 percent of women would choose the same groom.
Moreover, once a man tries marriage, he's hooked.Divorced and widowed men remarry at higher rates and in greater haste than do their female counterparts.
When a psychologist asked married men whether they'd marry again if something happened to their spouse, almost every husband responded yes without hesitation. Nearly half the wives, however, said they wouldn't opt fora second stroll down the aisle.
Do they value fidelity?
A landmarkstudy revealed that only 15 percent of husbands married two years or less have strayed;among men wed a decade or more, not even one in three has cheated onhis wife.
More than three quarters of the 1000 men surveyed in an opinion poll agreed that fidelity is more important to a good marriage than is a satisfying sexual relationship, financial security or having children.
Do they agonize over their looks?
Ninety percent of men would like to change some aspect of their physical appearance. For an overwhelming majority of men, being muscular – with wide shoulders, well-developed arms and chest, and a narrow waist – is as tyrannical a standard for men as being slender is for women. One survey found that a man's self-esteem is directly tied to having a muscular upper body. Those who feel their biceps aren't beefyenough often feel inadequate and depressed.
Men are dissatisfied with themselves in other ways too. 40 percent of the men surveyed wanted to lose weight, and another 45 percent wanted to gain weight. One in three would like to be taller.
Are they insensitive?
Frustrationis typical of what many women experience when they talk to the men in their lives about feelings and worries. Seeking comfort and understanding, they receive only more evidence of what women misperceive as the male lack of sensitivity.
The real problem is that the sexes have fundamentally different conversational styles. For women, conversation is about rapport– a means of establishing connections, underscoring similarities. Not so for men. Since many men see themselves as problem solvers, a complaint is a challenge to their ability to think of a solution. So women who seek understanding from their partner feel frustrated when they receive advice.
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прихильник
бути схильним
невдаха
замовкати
зловити на гачок
поспіх
вибирати, вважати за краще
серйозний
збитися з вірного шляху
зраджувати
міцний, м’язистий
розчарування
взаєморозуміння
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