Mrs. Right is Optimistic

Do you want to spend your life reassuring a woman, or would you rather have a woman who looks at the cup half-full and needs little reassurance about the happiness in her life? Negative and sarcastic people may be funny or semi-grounding at first, but they will take their toll on your happiness in the end. Ensure your woman is willing to see the positive side of things on her own. This doesn’t mean that you won’t need to support her in times of trouble, but it does mean that she won’t spend her life focused on the bad and negative, and bring you down with her.

In the end, if she is displays the above six signs, the chances of you having a successful, happy relationship are much higher than if she doesn’t display them. The point is that ‘misses right’ is a woman who is going to make you happy for years to come, and if she doesn’t make you happy right now, then she probably won’t make you happy in the future.

22. Do you believe that the stereotype "Men are inclined to avoid marriage" is true nowadays? Give four reasons to support your negative or positive opinion (тут 6 причин, можете вибрати якісь 4 або вчити всі)

It seems that fewer and fewer people in general are getting married these days, and even fewer men seem interested. Men no longer see marriage as being as important as they did even 15 years ago.

1.You'll lose friends. When married, men's ties with friends from school and work tend to fade. Although both men and women lose friends after marriage, it tends to affect men's self-esteem more, perhaps because men tend to be less social in general.

2.You'll lose space. We hear a lot about men retreating to their "man caves," but why do they retreat? Because they've lost the battle for the rest of the house. The development of suburban lifestyles, intended to bring the family together, resulted in the elimination of male spaces in the main part of the house, and the exile of men to attics, garages, basements - the least desirable part of the home.

3.You could lose your kids, and your money. And they may not even be your kids. Lots of men are keenly aware of the dangers of divorce, and worried that if they were married and it went sour, the woman might take everything, including the kids. Other men were concerned that they might wind up paying child support for kids who aren't even theirs - a very real possibility in many states.

4.Single life is better than ever. While the value of marriage to men has declined, the quality of single life has improved. Single men were once looked on with suspicion, passed over for promotion for important jobs, which usually valued "stable family men," and often subjected to social opprobrium. Now, no one looks askance at the single lifestyle, dating is easy, and employers probably prefer employees with no conflicting family responsibilities. Plus, video games, cable TV, and the Internet provide entertainment that didn't used to be available.

5. Divorce rates are high and rising. In America, the divorce rate has now risen from 30 percent to 50-60 percent. Russia has similar high levels of divorce as well. If you know there's a high probability of that happening, then why promise to stay together "til death do you part"? Wouldn't you be lying to yourself and others? Besides, how many people can be 100 percent sure of something or anything? Divorce is expensive, complicated and messy. Many men lose half their property and assets, or all of it. It ruins lives. A lot of men say that marriage was the biggest mistake of their lives.

6. Marriage takes away your freedom and liberty. Every man naturally fears marriage. You can't just do whatever you want or put your own interest first. In fact, you must appease your spouse by conforming to her wishes and standards, and accept her friends. And of course, if you marry, you are not free to love other women, date them, or even befriend them, ethically speaking that is. Your wife will not even be comfortable with you having any other female friends, even if they are innocent ones, for she will always be suspicious of them and watch how much attention you give them. Furthermore, your wife will expect you to keep a stable job to provide money and security for her and any children you may have together. What this means is that if your dream is to have a life full of adventure, travel and freedom, then don't get married, cause marriage will take away all that, unless you're lucky enough to find a partner who shares your same lifestyle. In the latter, your freedom is totally gone and you are tied down into commitment, obligation and responsibility, which people call "life".

Whatever decision you make, it is in your best interest to weigh everything out first before getting married. The decision is ultimately up to you. Only you can know what's best for you and what will make you happiest. I can't tell you what is best for you, but I can at least inform you of what society won't. Thanks for hearing me out. Best wishes to you all for success and happiness.

23. Just before leaving for New York on a one-year exchange program you find out that your unmarried 18-year-old daughter is three months pregnant. Will you decide to keep on moving forward with your career and set off on your trip or else support your daughter and stay home?

I was under such heavy impact when found out, that my daughter is pregnant. I really had experienced a wide range of emotions, from shock and disappointment to grief and worry about the future. The news was out of the blue. At that moment I felt that all our life had to be changed, we have to think over our plans for the future and make a lot of changes. When family is waiting for a baby, they prepare for its coming rather thoughtfully and pay attention to every detail. My family is going to became bigger and I have to make up my mind what should I do. I am telling this because 1 month ago I have got an amazing proposition for living in New York on a one-year exchange program and start working in world-well-known business company. This trip is great chance for the whole my family to change our life for better and open new paths in this world. But the reality turns out to be another than in my dreams.

It took me a long period of time to make a conclusion what actually should I do, what will be the best decision. But at the end I felt that I have to stay with my family, with my lovely child that soon will become mother. And it is my responsibility as a parent to help the daughter and teach her and even guide what should she do. Because we all know that job might make us successful, but it will never make us happy. Job never gives us the feeling of belonging, feeling that we are loved. I want my daughter not to feel any fear of the unknown, but be sure that I will support her through the challenges that lie ahead. I know that there will be a lot of gossip behind our backs, so I am 100 % sure that parents have to share responsibility with their pregnant children.

So what can I do as the parent of a teen having a baby? Recognize your feelings and work through them so that you can accept and support her. To tell the truth, I felt angry and even shame at the first time. But the reality of the upcoming baby means that I will have to get beyond my initial feelings for the sake of my daughter and her child.

Many practical issues must be considered. As a parent, I need to think about my own level of involvement and commitment and discuss it with my daughter. How much support — financial and otherwise — am I able to offer? For sure, I will do my best to provide her and her upcoming child with all necessary things. But mental support is the most important one. I have to help my teen understand that as rewarding as having a child is, it isn't always fun — caring for a baby is a huge responsibility and a lifelong commitment. Prepare her for the reality that she won't have as much time for the things she used to do — that her life is about change and the baby will take priority.

As a parent, I can have a great impact on her life and on her baby's. I may still wish that she had made different choices. But by supporting my daughter, making sure she gets good prenatal care, and listening as she shares her fears and anxieties.

24. You are planning to get married to an Indonesian. In spite of your relatives and friends’ efforts to dissuade you, you still believe that your marriage will be lasting and happy. What makes you think that way? Give five arguments.

When people feel that together they are the whole one, it means that they found their life-partner.

This world is so big and amazing, but the greatest part of our lives is love. I am happy to find person with whom I am able to share my happiness. Yes, he is from Indonesia, but nationality, color of skin or religion are not important when people love each other.

I know that a lot of my friends and even my parents are against our marriage, because they don’t believe that we will be happy. I know that our cultures, traditions and mentality distinct so much. But still I feel myself happy with him and want to build happy marriage with this guy.

1. We’re best friends. We really like each other to last. We enjoy doing things together (while still doing things apart). We drive for days to car shows sometimes.

2. We made a pact to never fight about money. Financial problems lead to divorce. We don’t want our relationship to deteriorate over something as inconsequential as money. We are already 5 years together and have been through financial ups and downs, including bouts of unemployment and significant credit-card debt. But we never cast blame and remain calm during financial discussions.

3. Always find things to laugh about. Laugh together. Times are tough. Tragedy happens in all families. Things will go wrong. But if you find ways to laugh about problems you’ll form a special bond and can overcome anything!

4. Keep a date night. Since we are together we’ve maintained one night a month to go out as a couple. I and he have a lot of work to do and every day we get home very tired. But still we try to find time to spend together. We don’t discuss problems or major issues. This time is only for us.

5. We remain passionate, supportive and accepting of what the other person is doing in their personal life even after 5 years of our relations. We know it is important to still be individuals. We each have things we want to get done personally. We want our work goals not just supported but understood and facilitated. It isn’t always easy. I always believe in him and know this is important to him.

25. Do you prefer to talk with your friends face-to-face or on the mobile phone or on the internet? What are the advantages and disadvantages of each of the ways of communication?

In modern society, with the rapid development of technology, people have more choices ways to communicate each other such as face-to-face, letters, emails or telephones. However, I believe that face-to-face communication is much better than other types of communication, such as a letter, email or telephone calls.

Advantages of face-to-face conversation:

1. Responses immediately: When people communicate each other in person, they can get a response immediately without misunderstanding. During the conversation, people can not only hear a response from others, also see how they are feeling; people can guest what will take place next, how the conversation is about, which is very important to have a successful talk.

2. Express of feelings: Using face-to-face communication helps people express their feelings, ideas much better. Instead of using words only when people choose letters, emails or phone forcommunication, people can use eye contact, verbal language in order to show their opinions. Scientists show that more than seventy percent people use body or verbal language in communicating; thus, it’s very important for people use actions to express views.

3. Suitable for respect: Face-to-face communication enjoys yet another distracts advantage, the message being communicated also gets the assistance of facial expressions and gestures.

4. Suitable for discussion: Face-to-face communication is particularly suitable for discussion, for there is immediate feedback from the listener. Face-to-face communication provides the speaker with a much better opportunity for adjustment. A twist of the lips, a frown on the forehead, a contraction of the facial muscles point out that the message is not welcomed, then changes of tone or sympathetically looking is to be needed. These adjustments are possible only in face-to-face communication.

Disadvantages of face-to-face conversation:

1. Not effective in large gatherings: It is very difficult to get a message across to large gatherings. Even though the speaker is addressing them face-to-face, the vital personal touch is missing. In the absence of a satisfactory feedback, his speech lapse into a monologue.

2. Ineffective if the listener is not attentive: A limitation which the face-to-face communication shares with oral communication is that its effectiveness is closely linked with the listener’s attentiveness. Since human beings can listen to grasp the message faster than the speed at which they are delivered, they will easily get delivered thus making communication ineffective.

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