Be brief.

3. Use "would you" or "will you" phrases.

It's best not to be too indirect, too lengthy, or to employ phrases such as "could you" or "can you." Let's look at some examples.

	Say	Don't Say
	"Would you empty the trash?"	"This kitchen is a mess; it really stinks. I can't fit anything else into the trash bag. It needs to be emptied. Could you do it?" (This is too long and uses could.)
	"Would you help me move this table?"	"I can't move this table. I need to rearrange it before our party tonight. Could you please help?" (This is too long and uses could.)
	"Would you please put this away for me?"	"I can't put all of this away." (This is an indirect message.)
	"Would you bring the groceries from the car?"	"I have four bags of groceries left in the car. And 1 need that food to make dinner. Could you bring them in?" (This is too long, indirect, and uses could.)
	"Would you pick up a bottle of milk on your way home?"	"You'll be going by the store. Lauren needs a bottle of milk. I just can't go out again. I am so tired. Today was a bad day. Could you get it?" (This is too long. indirect, and uses could.)
	"Would you pick up Julie from school?"	"Julie needs a ride home and I can't pick her up. Do you have time? Do You think you could pick her up?" (This is too long, indirect, and uses could.)
	"Would you take Zoey to the vet today?"	"It's time for Zoey to get her shots. Would you like to take her to the vet?" (This is too indirect.)
	"Would you take us out to dinner tonight?"	"I am too tired to make dinner. We haven't gone out in a long time. Do you want to go out." (This is too lengthy and indirect.)
	"Would you zip me up?"	"I need your help. Could you zip me up?" (This is indirect and uses could.)
	"Would you build a fire for us tonight?"	"It's really cold. Are you going to build a fire?" (This is too indirect.)
	"Would you take me to a movie this week?"	"Do you want to go to a movie this week?" (This is too indirect.)
	"Would you help Lauren put on her shoes?"	"Lauren still hasn't put on her shoes! We are late. I can't do this all by myself! Could you help?" (This is too long, indirect, and uses could.)
	"Would you sit down with me now or sometime tonight and talk about our schedule?"	"I have no idea of what's going on. We haven't talked and I need to know what you are doing." (This is too long and 'Indirect.)

As you have probably noticed by now, what you think has been asking is not asking to Martians; they hear something else. It takes a conscious effort to make these little but significant changes in the way you ask for support. I suggest practicing at least three months correcting the way you ask for things before moving on to step two. Other request statements that work are "Would you please...?" and "Would you mind...?" Start out in step 1 by being aware of how many times you don't ask for support. Become aware of how you do ask when you do. With this increased awareness, then practice asking for what he's already giving you. Remember to be brief and direct. Then give him lots of appreciation and thanks.

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