Nonverbal communication

Active listening and Questioning skills

Nonverbal communication

Discussion questions:

1. Have you ever received an e-mail message or a letter and felt the sender really wasn't thinking about what you needed to know or hear? What do you think is the reason for such misunderstanding?

2. Why do you think effective communication skills are of major importance for tourism and hotel managers?

3. Do you think listening can have an impact on your business relationships? If yes, how?

4. Why do we listen?

5. How do you understand the expression “active listening’?

6. Do you know your three strongest nonverbal communication skill areas?

7. Do you know your three weakest nonverbal communication skill areas?

8. When you hear a person answer a phone for an organization, do you think about what kind of image is conveyed?

9. Can you think of some times where nonverbal communication has been really important in your life?”

Lectures thesis:

1. Active listening. Most people love to talk and hate to listen. Many people confuse hearing with listening. You may hear every word but if you are not listening, you will misunderstand the message. Active listening occurs when we avoid the tendency to judge and evaluate. We listen with understanding. You see other people’s point of view, sense how it feels to them, and experience their frame of reference. It is called empathy. It is not necessarily agreeing with the other person, but is recognizing and understanding their point of view. If we are practicing good listening, we are able to repeat most of the content back to the speaker; at least we are listening to what is being said. In active listening, we evaluate or interpret the feelings, showing our understanding.

By actively listening, we will encourage others to talk more openly about their needs, wants, goals, suggestions. Communication tools that are used in active listening are asking questions, silence, perception checking, giving feedback.

Questions. The ability to ask the right question at the right time is a powerful communication tool. The primary role of questions is to open up communication. Questioning skills are of vital importance in forming opinions and judgement about the individuals with whom we interact. In conjunction with good listening, questioning, or drawing out and handling the flow of information in more personal and less formal dyadic communications situations, for example, in appraisal, counseling, or interviewing, often involves dealing with a considerable human element of unease-through fear, or suspicion or inability to communicate strong emotions. Your style, tone and register of communication for these purposes must elicit useful and essential answers, but it is often difficult to do so without appearing aggressive.

Depending on the study being quoted, we remember between 25% and 50% of what we hear. That means that when you talk to your boss, colleagues, customers or spouse for 10 minutes, they pay attention to less than half of the conversation. Turn it around and it reveals that when you are receiving directions or being presented with information, you aren't hearing the whole message either. You hope the important parts are captured in your 25-50%, but what if they're not? Clearly, listening is a skill that we can all benefit from improving. By becoming a better listener, you will improve your productivity, as well as your ability to influence, persuade and negotiate. What's more, you'll avoid conflict and misunderstandings. All of these are necessary for workplace success! Good communication skills require a high level of self-awareness. By understanding your personal style of communicating, you will go a long way towards creating good and lasting impressions with others.

The way to become a better listener is to practice "active listening". This is where you make a conscious effort to hear not only the words that another person is saying but, more importantly, try to understand the complete message being sent. In order to do this you must pay attention to the other person very carefully. You cannot allow yourself to become distracted by whatever else may be going on around you, or by forming counter arguments that you'll make when the other person stops speaking. Nor can you allow yourself to get bored, and lose focus on what the other person is saying. All of these contribute to a lack of listening and understanding. If you're finding it particularly difficult to concentrate on what someone is saying, try repeating their words mentally as they say them – this will reinforce their message and help you stay focused.

To enhance your listening skills, you need to let the other person know that you are listening to what he or she is saying. To understand the importance of this, ask yourself if you've ever been engaged in a conversation when you wondered if the other person was listening to what you were saying. You wonder if your message is getting across, or if it's even worthwhile continuing to speak. It feels like talking to a brick wall and it's something you want to avoid.

Acknowledgement can be something as simple as a nod of the head or a simple "uh huh." You aren't necessarily agreeing with the person, you are simply indicating that you are listening. Using body language and other signs to acknowledge you are listening also reminds you to pay attention and not let your mind wander. You should also try to respond to the speaker in a way that will both encourage him or her to continue speaking, so that you can get the information if you need. While nodding and "uh huhing" says you're interested, an occasional question or comment to recap what has been said communicates that you understand the message as well.

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