My parents DON'T understand!

A female age 18-21 writes:

I'm always crying at home and it's because my parents always say something to make me feel like I'm not good enough. I love talking to my friends on the computer, I must admit, I stay on the computer all day and my parents complain that I stay in my room too much and I never come out to talk to anyone. But the reason is because every time I step out of my bedroom door and say something.. It leads to something else and I end up crying.

Like today.. [It's Sunday and THEY couldn't go to church. ] my mom says ' what did he preach about today?'. and I really didn't know because my preacher preaches for like 20 minutes, and my little sister was bothering me the WHOLE time so I say 'I don't know. She was bothering me the whole time.' Then my dad says 'you never listen to him, you just go just to go. I swear you never listen'. That's when I'm almost to tears because I could swear they hate me.

They start an argument with everything I say so they keep talking [forgot what they said to me] but I eventually start crying and then my mom says 'and just cause you're standing there crying doesn't mean anyone is gonna feel sorry for you.' they DON'T understand. They DON'T know how it feels when every time you talk to someone you really love, you end up crying and getting hurt from something they said and just not feeling good enough. Can someone please help me with this?

A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008):

I can honestly say that i understand what you're going through. Each day, we kids go to school and go through all these problems. Then when we get back to school, all our parents have to say are negative things that make our day even worse. I know that it's a terrible feeling - to feel like your parents just hate you when in reality they just don't understand what you're going through. believe me, i deal with that all the time too.

My best advice is to just let them cool off and talk to them. That's something that i should have done a long time ago, but i've learned my lesson. Communication is always the key factor in a relationship, and its best if you explain how you feel with your parents. if they really love you, like all parents should, they will listen carefully to what you have to say because they love you. after all, parents only punish you because they care. (:

A reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008):

that my advice for you be fair with them.they will also love you. come out of your bed so have a chat with with them and cup of tea. they are you parents you should have respect them. don't start crying you should argue the mater with them what they are saying to you. thank you i am student at college

A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008):

i know how you feel no matter what i do my dad is never happy. he rather have me persuit a high paying career rather than a cheap paying one that is easy.But always remember there your parent if they dont love you why are they so worry about you they just want you to grow up well try telling them how you feel and ask are they worry about you is that why they yell at you. REMEBER your parent never want to hurt you but teach you even if means making cry.

Hope my advise help and yes im 14.

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