Duties of a CHASTE Wife 2 страница

(SC 1 Separating the Men From the Animals)

A CHASTE and faithful wife will give birth to good sons, who will then offer oblations to their forefathers and thus deliver them if by chance they have fallen into a hellish condition. The very word putra ("son") means "one who can deliver his forefathers from hell." Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu showed this by His example when He went to Gaya to offer oblations to His forefathers. Even today there is a Visnu temple in Gaya where such oblations are offered at the lotus feet of Lord Visnu.

(C 13 Ajamila Begins His Degraded Life)

Ajamila repented his negligence in performing his duty to his wife, father, and mother. It is the duty of grown-up children to render service to their aged parents. This practice should be reintroduced into present society. Otherwise, what is the use of family life? Proper family life means that the husband should be protective, the wife CHASTE, and the children grateful to their father and mother. Children should think, "My father and mother gave me so much service. When I was unable to walk, they carried me. When I was unable to eat, they fed me. They gave me an education. They gave me life." A bona fide son thinks of ways to render service to his father and mother. And just as a woman is expected to be faithful to her husband, so the husband should be grateful for her service and protect her.

(17 The Moment of Truth)

women should be very CHASTE. That is the basic principle of Vedic civilization. And to keep the women CHASTE, it was the function of the responsible father, or, in the absence of father, the elder brother... So he must get the woman, the girl, married. It is compulsory. There was no compulsory for man to marry. Because a man may remain brahmacari. By training, he can abstain from sex. But if woman is not protected very strictly, it is very difficult. It is very difficult. Canakya Pandita has... It is not... It is... We are discussing sastra. Don't think otherwise. Canakya Pandita says: visvasam naiva kartavyam strisu raja-kulesu ca. Visvasam naiva kartavyam. "Don't trust women." Visvasam naiva kartavyam strisu. Strisu means women. Raja-kula... And politicians. Yes. Visvasam naiva kartavyam strisu raja-kulesu ca. Never the trust the politician and woman. Of course, when woman comes to Krsna consciousness, that position is different. We are speaking of ordinary woman. Because Krsna says, in another place, striyo vaisyas tatha sudrah. They are considered, women, vaisya, the mercantile community, and sudra, and the worker class, they are less intelligent. Papa-yoni. When the progeny is defective, then they become less intelligent. So Krsna says:

mam hi partha vyapasritya

ye 'pi syuh papa-yonayah

striyo vaisyas tatha sudras

te 'pi yanti param gatih

Even papa-yoni, degraded birth, even women, sudra and vaisya, they also can become fully Krsna conscious by training. And they can also go back to home, back to Godhead, without any check

(730728BG.LON Lectures)

If the woman is trained, a girl is trained from the very beginning that: "You should remain CHASTE," that is dharma. It is called Satita dharma. Sati means CHASTITY. There are many stories of Sati, CHASTE woman. Nala-damayanti. His husband became so poverty-stricken. He was king, but he became later on so poverty-stricken that he had no sufficient cloth. The husband and wife was putting on the same cloth, half and half. So still, still there was no divorce. You see. Still the woman did not consider... She was also king's daughter. But the husband has fallen down to so much poverty-stricken condition. "So why shall I live with him?" These are some of the extreme examples of CHASTITY. Not to speak of olden days, I have seen in Bombay, in 1935 or '34, on the roadside, there was a beggar. The beggar, the face was defaced. Might be some accident. His eyes and everything became defaced. He could not see, everything became useless. So he, he was sitting on the roadside, and his wife also, also sitting. But I saw that beggar was neat and clean. The wife was also neat and clean. The wife's business was that to keep the husband always neat and clean and fresh and bring him there and again take him at home. Young woman. So I could understand that the wife is so CHASTE. She has not left such ugly husband. Because his face was defaced. And helping him. Because they require some money. So we have seen.

(730728BG.LON Lectures)

So there are still. That is not very long ago. So this was the training. And the psychology is that woman, the first man she meets and if she is kept carefully, she becomes staunch lover. This is psychology. There is good psychology in maintaining the society. Therefore a woman, especially in India, especially in Bengal, before attaining puberty, she was married. Not to meet the husband unless she attains puberty. But she remained at father's house, but she must know that: "I am married. I have got husband." This psychology. Then she becomes very CHASTE. Because she thinks of her husband, and becomes more and more devoted. So this arrangement that woman must be married before puberty... Or even after puberty, she must get a husband. So if this dharma... It is called kanya-daya, kanya-daya. Kanya-daya means it is very obligatory that the father must get the daughter married. This is dharma.

(730728BG.LON Lectures)

The wife is so important. If there is CHASTE wife, she can help the husband in these four principles of life, dharma artha kama moksa, dhara samprati hetuta. If we can train up nice wife, or the society trains the girls to become nice wife, she becomes a great source of energy to the husband. Dharma-artha-kama-moksah dhara sampra.... And if they are polluted, they become source of the sankara, varna-sankara

(730729BG.LON Lectures)

Because I shall get my next body according to my mental condition at the time of death. So just like our women are taught to become very CHASTE. Why? That is a process to give her a chance to become a male next life. A, a woman, if he's, if she is educated to become CHASTE, attached to the husband, then naturally at the time of death, she'll think of the man, and she gets immediately... That is promotion. That is promotion. Similarly, if a man is very much attached to his wife, he'll think at the time of his... He becomes woman. These are the science

(721126BG.HYD Lecture)

There is a story, Savitri-Satyavan. Savitri-Satyavan, it is not a story. It is historical fact that one gentleman, he was a king's son, prince. His name was Satyavan. But he was to die at a certain age his horoscope said. But one girl Savitri, she fell in love with that boy. Now she wanted to marry. Her father told her, "He'll die at certain age. You don't marry." But she was bent. She married. In course of time the boy died, say after four or five years, and the girl became widow. So she was so staunch lover that she won't let the dead body go away. And the Yamaraja, the, what is English I do not know, who takes away the body or the soul after death, so he came to take the soul away. So this CHASTE girl would not allow the husband's body to go away. Then Yamaraja told, "It is my duty that I should take. You give it up. Otherwise, you'll be also punished." So she gave and she was following Yamaraja. So Yamaraja became compassionate. So Yamaraja became compassionate, he benedicted her, "My dear girl, you go home. I give you benediction you will have a son. Don't cry for your husband." Then she was again following and when Yamaraja said, "Why you are following me?" "Now you are taking my husband. How can I have my son?" Oh, then he was in dilemma. He returned her husband. So similarly, this is a technique. If you take to Krsna consciousness, then your husband or this human form of life is guaranteed.

(660916BG.NY Lecture)

lso good, and this demigod is also good, you are also good, I am also good. You are also God, I am also God." There is no sraddha. Just like a CHASTE woman cannot say that every man is good. She'll say, "Only my husband is good." That is CHASTITY. If some woman says that "Any man is good..." Similarly, sraddha means to become CHASTE, pure krsna-bhakta. That is sraddha.

(740926SB.CAL Lectures)

This is... The lampata. Just like lampata husband goes to so many other women, but the CHASTE wife still loves the husband: "Never mind." So similarly we have to become so CHASTE, so honorable, just to stick to the lotus feet of Krsna. That is Krsna consciousness movement.

(721107SB.VRN Lecture)

Woman, they are generally equipped with the qualities of passion and ignorance. And men also may be, but man can be elevated to the platform of goodness. Woman cannot be. Woman cannot be. Therefore if the husband is nice and the woman follows, woman becomes faithful and CHASTE to the husband, then their both life becomes successful. There are three qualities of nature: sattva, rajas, tamas. So rajas, tamas generally, that is the quality of woman. And man can become to the platform of goodness. Therefore initiation, brahminical symbolic representation is given to the man, not to the woman. This is the theory. Therefore the combination should be that the husband should be first-class devotee, Krsna conscious, and woman should be, woman should be devoted to the husband, faithful, so that she would help the husband to make progress in Krsna consciousness. Then their both life is successful. Otherwise, if the husband simply becomes captivated by the charming beauty of woman and engages himself in the sex life, then his life is lost, and the woman, they are less intelligent, unless they are guided by proper husband, her life is also lost. So those who are not demigods... Here it is said, apayayat suran. Sura-asura. Sura, those who are not developed to Krsna consciousness, they are asura. So every husband should be a sura. Sura means devotee. And every woman should be religious. Religious means to become CHASTE, faithful to the husband. And the husband should become a devotee. Then both of them will make progress in Krsna consciousness and that is the perfection of life.

(720922SB.LA Lectures)

But they remained silent. Silent means they did not like the idea. Because Bhima had many old grudges against Duryodhana, because when Draupadi was being insulted, they had to sit down silent, no protest. There were so many incidences--rivalry, insult and counterinsult. So they took the opportunity of feeding the old grudge by fighting. Everyone was determined, "I must kill." Duryodhana was determined to kill Bhima, and Bhima was determined to kill. So when they did not listen to the instruction of Baladeva, then Baladeva left the place. He went to Dvaraka, back. Of course, Krsna was there, because Krsna was to give hint to Bhima how to kill Duryodhana. So Duryodhana, by the blessings of his mother, his whole body became iron-like solid. So by beating by the Bhima, it was not easy. So the story is that Gandhari, the mother of Duryodhana, she was great CHASTE woman. Because her husband was blind, she used to remain as blind woman covering the eyes. But she had some power. CHASTE woman, anyone who sticks to the regulative principles, he gets a power, spiritual or material. He gets power. A brahmacari gets power if he follows brahmacarya. Everyone, if we follow the prescribed rules and regulations, automatically you become powerful

(760912SB.VRN Lectures)

So deha apatya kalatra. Kalatra means wife. "Oh, I have got such a nice wife, and she'll pray to Yamaraja, 'Please excuse my husband.' " Just like Nala-Damayanti. Not... What is that? Savitri-Satyavan. The Savitri saved her husband from the hands of Yamaraja. That's a long story. It will take much time. So therefore " I have got such a nice CHASTE wife, she will save me from the Yamaraja hands." Then I can speak shortly that Savitri-Satyavan... Satyavan was to die on the marriage day. But Savitri was attached to Satyavan, so her father, mother said that "You don't marry this boy. He'll die on the very day of his marriage." So love is blind. She said, "Still I shall marry him." So she married, and the husband died. So Yamaraja came. So she pleased the Yamaraja, and Yamaraja, being pleased, said, "My dear girl, you'll have a very good son"--because every girl expects some son. So Yamaraja gave her the benediction that "You will have very nice son." Then the husband was dead... No, she prayed for a good son, yes. And Yamaraja gave her benediction, "Yes, you'll have good son." First of all she pleased Yamaraja by prayers, and then Yamaraja asked, "What do you want?" "A very good son." "All right, you'll have a good son." So then the Yamaraja was taking her husband, and she was going behind. Then Yamaraja said, "Your husband cannot be returned. He is dead. And it is my duty, I am taking. Why you are coming, following me?" "Now, you said that I will have a son. So if you are taking my husband, how he will have son?" So Yamaraja came to his senses that "I have done a mistake." Then "All right, take your husband.

(760929SB.VRN Lectures)

Therefore according to Vedic civilization, the woman must be protected because they are very simple. They can be led to goodness also very easily, and they can be polluted also very easily. By nature, they are very simple. Therefore sastra says that... Just like child. If you mold the character of a child from the very beginning, then he can become a great man. Similarly, if you train woman from the very beginning how to become CHASTE and faithful to the husband, they can become a very good mother, very good asset in the family.

So there is sufficient information in the Vedic literatures how a man should be trained up, a boy should be trained up, a girl should be trained up, so that in future they may become happy. The ultimate aim of life is how to become connected with Krsna.

(761002SB.VRN Lectures)

That is varna-sankara. So varna-sankara... In the Bhagavad-gita... If the varna-sankara increases, strisu dustasu varna-sankaro jayate. When women become polluted, no fixed-up husband-- that is pollution for woman, no CHASTE, no CHASTITY--then this varna-sankara will come out. And when the world is overpopulated by varna-sankara, it will become a burden. Therefore it so became, atheist, varna-sankara, demons. So it was unbearable by the earthly planet. And it is said, yada yada hi dharmasya glanir bhavati bharata, tadatmanam srjamy aham. Therefore mother earth went to appeal, "Please come and save me. I am very much overburdened."

(741014SB.BOM Lectures)

So people are misled in this way. They undergo hardship for some temporary gain, which is condemned. Sastra says that if you take hardship, if go under, undergo tapasya, it must be for realization of God. Tapo divyam. That will give you permanent happiness. And if you accept hardship for anything material, it may give you temporary so-called happiness, but with the end of your body, everything will be finished. Therefore this tapasvini, this Gandhari... Tapasvini. She has been described as tapasvini. She wanted to be a faithful, CHASTE wife. What is the result? If a woman becomes faithful, CHASTE wife, then the next life there is chance of her becoming a male. Because according to Vedic literature, to take a birth as woman is low-grade. Striyah sudras tatha vaisya ye 'pi syuh papa-yonayah. In the Bhagavad-gita the... As there are higher grade and lower grade births, so according to Vedic understanding, the women, the body of woman is lower grade birth. Therefore if she's fortunate to have a good husband, devotee, and if she becomes faithful to that husband, then her life is successful. That is called tapasya.

So Gandhari did it. Gandhari... In India still, marriage does not take by canvassing all of a sudden. The father and mother, especially in aristocratic family, royal family, even in Western countries, the father, mother select the husband or wife. Even in England, the Kind Edward VIII, he was intimately in friendship with a common girl. So the state would not allow him that "You can marry a common girl." So at that time the prime minister, one Mr. Baldwin, he said to him that "Either you have to give up the company of that common girl or you have to give up this empire." So out of sentiment, he gave up the empire. Later on he was very sorry. And his second brother, George VI, he... George VI means the father of the present Queen, Elizabeth. So still this is current in aristocratic family, that the husband and wife should be selected by the parents.

So Gandhari, she was the daughter of Afghanistan, Ghandahar. Still, the name is there Gandahar. Gandhar. Formerly the name was Gandhar. So Gandhari means the daughter of Gandhar country. So when she was informed that her would-be husband is a blind man--Dhrtarastra was blind from birth--so immediately she practiced austerity. Voluntarily she closed her eyes with cloth that she would also live as blind. "My husband would be blind. So, although I'm not blind, I must live also as blind." This is the beginning of austerity, Gandhari. So Gandhari was so faithful, one of the most exalted CHASTE wife mentioned in the sastras, Gandhari, that in all conditions she followed the husband. At last, when everything was finished in the Battle of Kuruksetra, no Kaurava, none of the sons or grandsons of Dhrtarastra was living, neither of the Pandavas, still, Gandhari was faithfully serving her husband. And Dhrtarastra was living with the nephews, Yudhisthira and his brothers. They were keeping the uncle very comfortably as elder uncle, all respect. But Vidura came there, and he criticized him, that "You have no shame. You all along remained enemy to your nephews. Now your nephews have killed all your descendants, and you are living here just like a dog. They are giving you some morsel of bread and you are eating and living here. You have no shame. You have become old." So he became very sorry: "My dear brother, what shall I do?" "Please come immediately along with me, and come to the forest." So Dhrtarastra went according to the instruction of Vidura. Gandhari followed. Gandhari never said that "I am now old. I have lost my children. These nephews, they're taking care of me. Why shall I go with my husband?" No. She also went.

So there are many good qualities in Mahabharata about Gandhari. Therefore she is described here as tapasvini. Tapasvini. Very CHASTE faithful wife. Ideal wife. Gandhari. Tapasvini. So what is the purport? Read it.

(730614SB.MAY Lecture)

So for that eternal position, you have to make krsna-devatah, Krsna as the worshipable Deity. Krsna is eternal, and if you fix up your service to Krsna, then Krsna will accept you as servant. Naturally, you become eternal. There is a very nice story. Nice story not, a fact. Savitri-Satyavan. Savitri-Satyavan. This, I mean to say, incidences are mentioned in the sastras to give us lesson. Savitri was a very CHASTE devoted woman. Savitri. In India, to the woman, in order to become very CHASTE and devoted to husband, they observe the ritualistic ceremony to worship Savitri Satyavan. So Savitri was in love with a boy who was destined to die on the marriage date, but still, she married. She knew that "As soon as I will be married, on the same day, my husband will die." So she pleased the Yamaraja. After the death... The husband died, but she pleased the Yamaraja so much so that Yamaraja was ready to give her some benediction. So Yamaraja said, "What benediction you want?" "Now, as woman, I wish that may be a son of mine, from me." "All right, you will get a son." Then again she said that "If you are taking away my husband, how I will get my son?" So her husband was made alive.

(740602SB.GEN Lectures)

"Here you see, in the Purana it is said that when Ravana came to kidnap Sita, immediately a false Sita was given to him, and the real Sita disappeared. Then again, when Lord Ramacandra, after killing Ravana, He was accepting Sita back to home, He tested with fire, that 'Sita, you should enter the fire, and if you are not burned, then you are CHASTE. Otherwise you are not CHASTE. ' Yes. So the false Sita which was taken by Ravana, she entered the fire, and the real Sita came out." This is the statement in the sastra.

(731202SB.LA Lectures)

Prabhupada: Yes. Just like a CHASTE woman has got good reputation, similarly, a CHASTE tongue... CHASTE tongue means... CHASTE tongue and ear. Jihvadau. Our spiritual life begins from tongue. Jihvadau. Sevonmukhe hi jihvadau svayam eva sphuraty adah. Atah sri-krsna-namadi na bhaved grahyam indriyaih. These senses--these mundane, blunt senses--they cannot receive or understand what is Krsna; what is Krsna's name; what is Krsna's form; what is Krsna's pastimes; what is Krsna's paraphernalia; so many things Krsna's... what is Krsna's word. Na bhaved grahyam indriyaih. These senses cannot do it. But when the one sense, the tongue, is engaged in devotional service... The tongue is engaged in devotional service means chant Hare Krsna. This tongue is especially given to you. The dog, the cat cannot chant Hare Krsna, but you can. Because God has given you the opportunity. So just like CHASTE woman means he is meant for her husband, similarly, CHASTE tongue means which is meant for chanting Hare Krsna. That is CHASTE tongue. And tasting krsna-prasadam.

(720617SB.LA Lectures)

"Therefore I shall accept this CHASTE girl as my wife, on the condition that after she bears semina from my body, I shall accept the life of devotional service accepted by the most perfect human beings. That process was described by Lord Visnu. It is free from envy."

(760808SB.TEH Lecture)

" If the wife is not CHASTE and friend is cheater, or satham..." Satham means duplicity, not very sincere friend. Outwardly he's showing he's very good friend, but inwardly he has got some intention. Such friend, duplicity, and unCHASTE wife, dusta bharya satham mitram and bhrtyas cottara-dayakah, and servant giving reply, and sa-sarpe ca grhe vasah, and in your room if there is a snake... Of course in this big, big concrete building there is no question of snake, but in cottages, huts, made with mud, earth, there are sometimes snakes. So Canakya Pandita said, "If you live with a dusta bharya and a duplicity friend and an answer-giving servant and a snake, then you are sure to die sometime. You'll be cheated."

So these things are there. The purpose is that our mind is like that, pumscali, unCHASTE wife. Not that everyone is unCHASTE. We have got many example, the character of woman. It is not that. It is not generalization. But there is chance. If they are not controlled, not properly educated, there is chance of becoming pumscali, and there have been many instances that woman, for being attracted by paramour, has killed even one's own son. There are cases. So Bhismadeva also advised that the shyness of woman, lajja, is the control. If you break that shy, what is called, shyness, then there will be disaster. That is the control valve naturally given. And woman's shyness is one beauty, beauty. We have got practical experience. And command also. We have practical experience in our life. You have seen that my friend came, Dinanath Mishra. They were our neighbor. So one day we were sitting on the corridor of the house. One sweeper woman, she wanted to come within, but very shyful, and with a covering of the head, although with broomstick and bucket, she was waiting because we were sitting both side. So she was feeling little shy not to enter the house. So we decided to move so that she may come. This example is given. She is a sweeper, not very respectable, maidservant or sweeper, but on account of her shyness we had to welcome, "Yes, we are moving. You come in." Just see. This is psychology. Therefore Bhismadeva, at his dying stage, he advised that woman's shyness is the valve to control. If their shyness is broken, then it will create disaster. Pumscali. This is the psychology. So things are changing nowadays everywhere, not only in India, in other countries also. But this is the psychology. So all these examples are given. Why? Just to control the mind. In Hindi there is a proverb that money and wife you should always keep in control. There are so many examples.

(761126SB.VRN Lecture)

.., simply sad-acara. Sad-acara means, sat means "that will exist," and acara means "behavior." Sad-acara So here it is said that Ajamila, he became the husband of a prostitute. It is not the sastric injunction. You can become husband, but not the husband of a prostitute. Then your life is finished. Nasta sad-acara. You will be lost all... Therefore so much stress is given that wife should be CHASTE and husband should be very well behaved, then life will be successful.

(760525SB.HON Lectures)

Therefore in the Vedic civilization two things are very much stressed: to teach the man from childhood how to become expert in sad-acara, and woman trained up how to become CHASTE. So this CHASTE woman and this sad-acara, brahmana, ideal is brahmana, he'll become married. Then there will be peace, there will be progress, there will be peace in the society, peace in the family. There is a poetry in English, "Society, friendship and love, divine (indistinct)." But that society is not this society. If we become husband of the prostitute, no, that is not possible. Then sad-acara will be finished. Namna sad-acara. Dasyah samsarga-dusitah: as soon as you become associated with prostitute, then everything will be lost. Sad-acara means your progress in spiritual life is lost. Therefore we are stressing so much on the four avoidances: no illicit sex, no meat-eating, no intoxication, no gambling. This is the way. If you are serious... But if you take it as a fashion, that is another thing. But if you take it seriously to progress, then these things will done. This is the basic principle of spiritual progress. Otherwise we shall learn, bandy-aksaih kaitavais cauryair garhitam vrttim asthitah, bibhrat kutumbam asucir... Asuci, asuci. Asuci means unclean. Spiritual life means purification. So if you purify and again become unclean, that we have discussed hasti-snana, the elephant. Elephant takes bath very nicely, and as soon as come on the shore, take some dust and throw on... Kunjara saucavat. Pariksit Maharaja said that "What is this cleaning?"

(760525SB.HON Lectures)

So this dasi-pati, this is also significant word, "the prostitute's husband." Prostitute means... They are, in Sanskrit, called pumscali. Pumscali means they are moved by other men, pumscali. There are three kinds of women: sairindhri, pumscali... In this way there are divisions. So some women, they are very easily carried by men. So that is not very good. Therefore I am instructing our GBC's that "Let our little girls be educated to become faithful and CHASTE." That is their qualification. No education required. And the boys should be trained up to become first-class men, samo damas titiksa, like that. And literary, Sanskrit and English, that will make them perfect. If the husband is first class and the wife is CHASTE and faithful, then the home is heaven. This is the formula. Dampatyoh kalaho nasti tatra srih svayam agatah

(750716SB.SF Lectures)

This is called judgment. So who is punishable? Desa-kala-patra. There is consideration, desa-kala-patra. Desa means situation, and kala, time, and patra, and the subject. Just like a child, he takes one fruit here. So he is not punishable. According to Vedic system, a child, a woman, a brahmana, a cow and a saintly person, they are not punishable. Cow, woman, saintly person, brahmana and child--they are beyond all laws. Even they commit some... They do not do. They have no criminal purpose. Formerly the women were trained up in such a way, very CHASTE and obedient. So they had no chance to commit any offense. And brahmanas, they are also trained up. Samo damah satyam saucam... (children making noise

(750720SB.SF Lectures)

Prabhupada: That is... A prostitute should, I mean to say, comb her hair in that way so that people can understand she is prostitute and she is CHASTE woman. And this sindura, the red, red lead, these were the signs. A vidava(?), one who has no husband, they should wear without any skirt, sari without any skirt, vidava, without any bangles. So people will understand, "This woman is without husband," "This woman is prostitute," "This woman is CHASTE woman, " "This woman is not married," "This woman's husband is away from home." So different dresses. Prosita-bhartrka. Prosita-bhartrka. The name was... A woman whose husband is away from home, she should not dress very nicely. She should not comb her hair. That is the system. There are so many systems

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