Violence in the family

Family violence is a situation in which one family member causes physical or emotional harm to another family member. At the center of this violence is the abuser` s need to gain power and control over the victim. Abuse can be: physical (hitting), emotional (threat s) and sexual (rape|/ There are many ways that the abuser tears down the victim`s sense of power and security. The abuser may use threats, isolation, verbal abuse, intimidation. Abuse follows a cycle that has three stages.

Stage 1 – the tension is building up

Stage 2 – abuse takes place

Stage3 – abucer feels remorse

Although alcohol is necessary involved in all cases of family violence, any police offider, ambulance driver or emergency room doctor will tell you that it is involved in a large percentage of these crimes and certainly in most violent incidents. The family is a system, which means that violence in any part of the family equals violence in every part. Woman abuse is a primary indicator of child abuse and vice versa. This system of violence in the family is so exact that the family dog tied up in the yard and abused indicates that inside the house the family is being battered, too, / Most people who work with children of alcoholics are well aware thyat these children often suffer from physical violence against them by a drunken parent. What they are not understand that these children probably suffer more often because of abuse against their mothers., because woman abuse is even more common than child abuse. Many children of alcoholics have mothers who are abused and the mother`s abuse affects the child in significant way.

- Because the abuser often uses the children`s behavior as an excuse for battering the woman. Children come to blame themselves for their mother`s abuse

- Children of battered women suffer «survivor guilt» because they must watch helplessly while their mother is beaten and can do nothing to save her

- The woman becomes unable to cope as a result of the battering may develop an emotional or mental illness that leaves her unable to fulfill her parenting role

Some people believe this abuse is a private matter to be dealt with by the family. But domestic violence is a crime and families have the right to be protected against it. Hiding it behind closed doors allows the abuse to continue, inflicting physical and emotional damage on family members. If nothing is done about it, the abuse usually gets worse, sometimes resulting in serious injury or death.

Even if only one person - often a man`s partner is a target of the abuse, it still affects in the family. Children growing up in abusive families may develop problems themselves – they may feel that adults, especially males, can`t be trusted; they may develop problems with alcohol or other drugs. When they drow up to have partners and children of their own they may become abusive toward them. This is why we can`t say domestic violence is no one else`s business – it`s a problem affecting the whole of society.

There is much that can be done to help these children. As we educate ourselves about family violence and begin to develop the skills to work with the victims and perpetrator ofviolence, this oldest of humasn crimes will begin to disappear. The willingness to listen and to hear the cries of battered families is the first step, As long as we refuse vto ask, battered women and their children will not talk about what`s going on at home. Their shame is too deep, and they can not trust that anyone will be able or willing to help. The solution to stopping violence in the family is up to each of us. When we understand this critical social issue, we will overcome our fear of working with battered families, and we will be able to reach out and draw them back into a sane and safe world.

threat [θret] опасность, угроза

intimidation [ɪnˌtɪmɪ'deɪʃ(ə)n] 1) запугивание

build up расти, нарастать; усиливаться

an excuse –предлог

survivor [sə'vaɪvə]/ 1) а) оставшийся в живых, уцелевший

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