I'm Not Really a Single Parent

My son's father--who lives in another country and has never contributed to helping me raise my son, and who abandoned and abused me while I was still pregnant--told me recently that I wasn't a "single mum." He claims that because he thought about us, that was enough! This was after I'd sent him some information about how to be good separated parents, to make it easier on my son. Also, when my son was born, I traveled halfway around the world to have him meet him, only to be abused and beaten. When I finally asked for a divorce after 4 years, he told me--via Skype--that no one would believe me that he had hurt me, that he didn't even believe it himself anymore. The assumption was, I'd chosen to be separate from him, and that I should always wait for him for us to "one day" be together. Also, that as the father he has more rights over my son than I do. In 4 years, he's only ever agreed to meet us online at a time that was compatible with my son's schedule once, and even that was late.

Guest Sadio

(2) His Family Believes His Lies

My boyfriend and I were supposedly "in love" when I found out I was three weeks pregnant. We had discussed what would happen if this came up. We agreed we loved each other would keep our baby and make the best of it. I got a positive pregnancy test and he promptly left me without so much as an in-person breakup. His grandmother sends a gift to my baby shower because I am close to his mother and sister. I call his grandmother to say thank you and she tells me, "I'm just waiting to see if it's his, considering he told me he thinks you've cheated on him." I loved him deeply and still have a hard time being without him. Most people in his family believe his lies which makes it okay for him to not speak to me in three months. I'm due in one week, and he has not returned my calls in three months.

Guest Rachel

(3) I've Heard It All!

So I had my son very young. I was 17 and in high school. I have also never been married, but since then I have managed to graduate high school and college. Sometimes I feel like I get the brunt of it simply because I don't conform to the stereotypes of the young single mom. I've dealt with the automatic assumption that I am on public assistance. "Oh come on, you can't tell me you don't get something from the government?" Or people who assume that I dropped out of high school and only have my GED. I was dating someone, and he took me to meet his brother and sister-in-law. His sister bragged that she was thirty when she had her first child, talking about the dogs needing to have a wedding before they could have puppies, etc. And these conversations were all for my benefit. Meanwhile, the boyfriend just agreed and contributed! Oh, and I have gone into a store where I was blatantly told I couldn't afford anything in there.

Enny Blue

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