III. Reveal the difference between the words below. Give examples to illustrate their usage.

To open – to open up;

to provide for – to provide with;

to grow – to grow up.

IV. Think of the best Russian translation for:

to form healthy relationships, to develop a secure attachment with parents, touch and eye contact, to be turned into sb.’s feelings, consistent and predictable environment, a quality attachment, safe and dependable environment, to develop emotional walls, to endure an abusive and chaotic early life, to live in stressful circumstances, parents with addictions, to experience nurturing and closeness, to be disconnected from one’s own painful feelings.

V. State the idea behind the lines below:

1. Children who feel the most secure in their early relationships with parents have tremendous advantages in life.

2. They tend to grow up feeling good about themselves and others.

3. These kids naturally form other healthy, close relationships as they go out into the world.

4. Children need an environment that is consistent, predictable, and safe in order to develop a quality attachment.

5. Without this kind of safe, dependable environment a child will develop emotional walls which will prevent a secure attachment.

6. Parents who live in stressful circumstances may have difficulty creating secure attachments.

7. Parents with addictions are unable to stay attuned to their children or provide a consistent, safe environment because they are preoccupied with the addictive substance or behavior, and the whole family may be on the addictions roller coaster together.

8. Parents who were not securely attached in childhood may be disconnected from their own painful feelings.

9. Most parents love their kids and want to give them the best start in life possible.

10. Parents who lacked quality bonds as children can be helped to identify and overcome the effects of their poor attachment histories so that they may give their children a better emotional start to life than the one they had.

VI. Points for discussion:

· Is attachment between kids and parents of paramount importance?

· What are the advantages of the secure attachment?

· Are there any obstacles to a quality attachment? How can one overcome them?

· Why is emotional attachment as important as physical?

· Why are all babies and children biologically programmed to attach to their parents?

· Can parents who grew up without secure attachment relationships provide a consistent and safe environment for their own kids?

· How can parents/kids who feel unlovable be helped?

Is the book written by Debra Wesselmann a worthy one? Would you buy it?

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