Now look at the text again and find words and expressions which mean the following.

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There is no denying that in a family life quite often people have to lie to one another. Here are some reasons people lie, signs that you are being lied to, and what you can do about it.

Read the passage below and discuss it with the groupmates. Do you find it true to life?

It is widely believed that nearly everyone lies on a regular basis. In an interview with ABC News, University of Virginia sociologist Bella DePaulo says some lying is necessary in everyday life.

Reasons People Lie:

• to avoid conflict.
• to supposedly protect someone's feelings.
• to avoid the consequences of their behavior.
• to postpone having to make changes in lifestyle.
• to hide something they did or did not do.
• because they are afraid of rejection or losing their spouse.
• to be in control of a situation.
• to avoid being embarrassed.
• to make themselves appear more successful, good, or talented than they really are.

Signs of Lying:

• touching chin, or rubbing their brows.
• crossed arms or legs.
• playing with hair.
• a line of perspiration on the brow if it isn't a warm day.
• saying "no" several times.
• continual denying of accusations.
• being extremely defensive.
• providing more information and specifics than is necessary or was asked for.
• inconsistencies in what is being shared.
• body language and facial expressions don't match what is being said such as saying "no", but nodding head up and down.
• smugness.
• may place a barrier such as a desk or chair in front of self.
• uncommon calmness.
• unwillingness to touch spouse during conversation.
• being hesitant.
• slouching posture.
• rigidity or fidgeting.
• differing behaviors. Not acting in a usual fashion.
• unnatural or limited arm and hand movements.
• partial shrug.
• lack of finger pointing.
• unusual voice fluctuations, word choice, sentence structure.
• stalling the conversation by repetitive use of pauses and comments like "um" or "you know".
• lack of use of contractions. Prefers emphasizing "not" when talking.
• avoidance of eye contact, eyes glancing to the right, staring past you, or turning away from you while they are talking. However, some honesty experts, like Stan Walters, say that measuring eye contact isn't an effective tool in detecting deception.
• lack of many pronouns while talking.

Some experts believe that when you believe you are being lied to, you shouldn't confront your spouse with your suspicions right away. They recommend waiting until you have discovered more information and facts. Other experts believe that the sooner the cards are all out on the table, and the sooner honesty is lived out once again in a marriage, the better. Only you know what is best for your marriage relationship.

It is possible to mistake nervousness or distraction for lying or for misreading or mislabeling your spouse's behaviors. Nonverbal clues to deceit can be difficult to spot and vary from individual to individual. The bottom line if you think your spouse is lying is to ask questions and ask for clarification if necessary. Trust your own intuition or that funny feeling you may feel inside.

4. Look back at the signs of lying and say:

1. Which signs prevail there, bodily or verbal?

2. Which of them are easier to identify?

3. Which of them do you find more/less common in a lying context?

4. Which of them do you intuitively resort to when you have to lie?

5. Simulate a ‘lying situation’ and have your partner/s identify its signs.

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