I Get to Know Myself Better

Without ever experiencing the tension of conflict in my life, I would never know what

my needs, wishes, desires are. Therefore conflicts allow us to take a deep look at our

own selves.

Conflict Styles

People respond to conflict in different ways. No response style is either good or bad as each has its purpose and value depending on the task to be accomplished. Knowing which is your prominent style will make you more aware of which style you bring forth in a conflict situation. Below are some conflict management styles that we adopt to deal with our problems,

as described by the Centre for Conflict Resolution, BC, Canada.

Accommodating

When accommodating, individuals neglect their own concerns to satisfy the

concerns of others. There is an element of self-sacrifice. Obeying another person’s

orders when one would prefer not to, or yielding to another’s point of view.

Avoiding

When avoiding, individuals do not address conflict. They do not pursue their own concerns or the concerns of others. They diplomatically side-step the issue, postponing the issue for a later time. Or simply withdraw from a threatening situation.

Collaborating (Opposite of Avoiding)

The individual attempts to work with the other person to find some solution, which fully satisfies the concerns of both parties. Both work at the problem for a satisfactory solution, creating win-win outcomes.

Competing (Opposite of Accommodating)

The individual pursues his or her own concerns at the other person’s expense. This is a power-oriented mode where one uses all the power one can eg rank, money, eloquence, to create a win – lose outcome.

Compromising

To find an expedient, mutually acceptable solution, which partially satisfies both parties. It does not explore solutions as deeply as when collaborating, but at least goes some way to address rather than avoid the issue. This might mean splitting the difference, exchanging concessions or seeking a quick middle ground.

Vocabulary

Directions: Study the following keywords and definitions.

1. all along -(adv) - the whole time
2. neutral -(adj) - Without opinion or favorite.
3. personal -(adj) - Not general or public.
4. position -(n) - Place, status or rank.
5. proceed -(v) - To begin or continue to go forward..
6. stagnation -(n) - The condition of not moving, growing or changing.
7. defuse -(v) - To remove danger from something.
8. affected -(v) - To change or influence.
9. resolve -(v) - Settle a disagreement.
10. arrogance -(n) - A feeling of superiority to others.
11. avoiding -(v) - Stay away from.
12. tension -(n) - Controlled anger, fear or other negative feeling.
13. game -(n) - Wild animal hunted for meat.
14. cost -(n) - Exchanges or sacrifcies made in order to obtain something else.
15. fact -(n) -

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