Couples meet, fall in love, get married and then divorce. Rates of divorce seem to increase with unbelievable speed nowadays and the reason is often explained with the famous phrase: “Did not get

Divorce

Agnessa Bobkova

Cause and Effect

Instructor G. Belousova

English 114

7 December 2011

The Causes of Divorce

Couples meet, fall in love, get married…and then divorce. Rates of divorce seem to increase with unbelievable speed nowadays and the reason is often explained with the famous phrase: “Did not get along.” In reality though there are hundreds of unique reasons why some couples fall apart.

One of the main reasons of divorces are problems in everyday life. When creating a family, people rarely think about what awaits them after a beautiful celebration. Family- is a hard work, in which take part both, wife and husband. Family is daily cooking, washing, cleaning, division of responsibilities and family budget. No one can avoid the problems of everyday life, but some couples cope with them and some do not.

It might sound paradoxical, but parents can become a serious obstacle to a happy family life. Of course, loving mom and dad are willing to help, because they have so much experience, so much knowledge about family life, but they most often do not think about what storms of passion and family scandals may cause such aid. Young people do not want to know the wisdom of their fathers and mothers, they want to learn from their own mistakes and to cope with them on their own. It is not necessary to give any advice or instructions, if not asked, it will do no good. This problem can be greatly exacerbated if the couple lives together with parents. And that brings up another fact- housing problem. Very rarely couples immediately after the wedding move into there own apartment. Most often they have to share living space with parents or rent an apartment, which can strike on family budget and on the family as a whole. The problem here is more psychological. After all, a new family is created, therefore, consciously or unconsciously, stability and independence is wanted.

Many couples fail to openly discuss financial situations before marriage such as individual debt, spending habits, salary information, etc. This can lead to one partner thinking the couple is living within their means, while the other partner sees the couple as financially spinning out of control. Also many couples fail to establish feelings of who should do the bread-winning or if the task should be split. A common situation is one from a wife who was socialized to believe the husband is the breadwinner, while the husband beliefs they should share financial responsibilities. It is crucial to form prenuptial agreements prior to marriage because it can protect either partner against financial ruin should the relationship fail.

Betrayal is one of the most serious reasons of couples breaking apart. It can happened in families with prosperous and stable relationship, more often- in conflict troubled families, and in families with critical, almost destroyed relationship. For a modern family love is the most important motive for marriage, and betrayal only brings up different contradictions, conflicts and disharmony between the couple. It mostly happens because of the frivolity of the spouses, misunderstanding of what “family values” and “the sanctity of family ties” mean. A huge roll here is played by ethic education and general culture of people.

. In conclusion, a family is one of the important parts of society, thus many people had better aware of the significance of relationship in family. Every chance should be used to save the family……

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