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Family Trap

How to stop seeing the world through your parents’ eyes is not easy

Parents play important role in our lives and for most of them this role doesn't end after giving us birth. Parents are supposed to control the development of our personalities or at least it takes part in this process. At least that is what I've learned from my parents.

Following our parents' advice we forget to switch our own brains on which is often much more useful especially our own lives. The row of the facts and the events that leads to losing the opportunity to get your own worldview starts not even in your childhood of your parents or maybe even earlier. Here is an example.

I know two brothers. When both were children, there was a problem in their family that often occurs in families with two and more children – one of the brothers didn't get enough love and appreciation from his parents, so he lived his whole childhood in the shadow of his elder brother, the most talented, handsome and phenomenal guy in the universe. When both brothers left the nest, the younger brother was ready to do his best to prove his parents he could succeed in life and the older brother was sure the whole world already knew how great and talented he was. So the younger brother started to work and became a big boss with no holidays and occasional phone talks with his wife and son. The older brother spends enough time with his family, though his children as well as his wife have no respect for him as the only thing he feels like doing in his life is getting more and more surprised nobody licks his boots. Neither parental love nor the lack of it gave them harmony. Moreover the younger brother's son is now sure the only criteria of identifying a happy person is successful career. Poor boy has an example of his dad who also gave him a hard pressure as a bonus: «Study, work, try your best, be rational, make things, be useful, don't lose time».

The more your father and mother are trying to be responsible for what's going on in your life while you're a child, the more will be the responsibility you'll feel later – the fear to disappoint then, the need to prove you're worth being their son/ daughter. The fear becomes stronger if the pressure of the critics you got from them in the childhood was much more than the love and patience they were supposed to give. At the same time the excess of their love may lead you to the unpleasant meeting of the reality when it's too late. What is the answer to the question I asked in very beginning of my article? I guess, if there was any possibility to get rid of what you've got from your family, the world would be… Would it be anything better than it is then?

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