Why it's good to be a narcissist in this competitive world

WHY IT'S GOOD TO BE A NARCISSIST IN THIS COMPETITIVE WORLD

Good morning, my name is Sycheva Alexandra, but before I start I would like to ask you some questions: “What does love mean for you?”

Can you choose the only person who you love most of all?

Speaking frankly, we can’t love someone more than ourselves… and today I would like to talk to you about office romance with yourself.

The purpose of my talk is to make you decide whether it is good to be a narcissist in today’s social milieu or not.

I plan to be brief and my speech will take only 10 minutes of your time.

I’ve divided my presentation into 3 sections:

· First of all, I’ll explain to you why it is so significant to be a bit narcissistic at work

· Next my speech will pass on to some advantages of narcissism

· And finally I’ll describe how to deal with narcissistic bosses

I’d be glad to answer any questions at the end of my talk.

1. Let me start with the 1st part of the presentation: Intrigue

*Narcissism has always been frowned upon and branded as immoral. Sure, a narcissist is *haughty, arrogant, self-centered and shrewd; but in a way, today, where self-indulgence is a priority and the fear of missing out predominant, aren't we all becoming a generation of narcissists? Ironically, all the aforementioned traits can also be relegated to someone who's *a leader. This makes us question - if being a narcissist is such a bad thing after all? Certainly not, in fact here’s why I think narcissism is extremely important in today’s competitive world.

*So, this brings me to my 2^nd point: Flirtation about strengths of narcissism.

You Make an Exemplary Leader

To be a leader, you need to have a strong head. Narcissists can be strong leaders because of their ability to dominate others without batting an eyelid (и глазом не моргнув). Having self-belief and confidence is what separates a leader from a commoner, and a narcissist has that in abundance. He makes decisions without flinching and firmly believes his authority to be more rational. This makes all the difference.

You Never have a Dull Moment

Let’s face it, narcissists are physically attractive, charming, and therefore are on the top of the dating game. Men, especially, display confidence like no other, and that is sure to give them plenty of attention from the opposite sex. Your love life will be like a roller-coaster, full of thrill and thus your dating life can be quite exciting.

Your Confidence takes you places

You are confident and selfish, but it’s perfectly okay because if you’re not selfish, you won’t go anywhere. Narcissists tend to work harder mostly because they want to stay ahead in the game. And it works, because in today’s cut-throat competitive world if you’re anything less, you won’t survive. It’s a dirty game, but a game you've to play.

You Are Loved as well as Feared

This, again, is one of the best traits of a leader. Narcissists are highly charismatic, they entertain people, yet they can go to ruthless levels to get things done. People will have a love-hate relationship with you, but it’s fine because you also tend to bring out the best in them.

You’re Focused

You know exactly what you want out of life. You also know how to get there. As long as you love what you do and believe in your cause, there’s nothing can stop you. Being a narcissist means using all your traits to get to the top. And in today’s world being at the top is all that matters, no one cares about who is below.

Let’s move on to the last point: Love

Narcissistic bosses need constant reminders that they are the “best,” the “brightest,” the “richest,” or anything that feels one-up to those around them. If you have such a boss, you will naturally feel miserable. It’s the human response to being treated as an inferior. The trick is to learn how to “manage” this boss, until you can permanently get away from him or her. Here are some tips:

1. Understand their predictable patterns of behavior. Narcissists are self-absorbed. They lack empathy for others, are arrogant, feel entitled, and manipulate relationships to serve their own interests. If you directly confront a narcissistic boss, he or she will do everything possible to “put you down,” to recover from the “narcissistic injury” you have caused them by temporarily destroying their fantasy of superiority.

2 Try to connect with Empathy, Attention and/or Respect (E.A.R.). I know this is the opposite of what you feel like doing. But this really works. Look interested when your narcissistic boss talks to you. “Butter him/her up” with an occasional compliment, asking a question (such as asking for advice on something), sharing an interesting tidbit of information, or thanks for some positive contribution.

3 Analyze your realistic options. It helps to write down what has happened, to help you get perspective and take it less personally. Then write down what your options are. Knowing you have options will make you much stronger in the face of someone else’s ridiculous behavior. Just avoid direct confrontation, which is tempting when you feel stronger. You may need a positive evaluation or recommendation some day from this narcissistic boss. Instead, focus on something else, such as counting the days until you will no longer have to work for this boss.

4. Respond quickly to misinformation. Narcissistic bosses often “kiss up” to their superiors in the workplace hierarchy, to make themselves look good. This often includes putting someone else down, such as spreading belittling remarks about you or others. Without directly challenging the narcissist, you should provide the correct information as soon as possible, so that others in your company do not come to believe that these criticisms about you are true.

5. Carefully set limits on really bad behavior. Narcissistic bosses are constantly violating other people’s boundaries, constantly insulting, and constantly demanding of attention. You are not going to change these behavior patterns, but you may be able to “contain” or stop specific behaviors for a while.

To sum up, I’ve just explained the significance of narcissism at work, then we’ve analyzed some advantages of it and finally, we’ve learnt the guideline how to live with such bosses.

In conclusion I would like us to remember 3 key points:

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